stuck, unable to move

how can something that is supposed to feel so good, so right...just feel so wrong? it boggles my mind. something that is an expression of feelings, that just makes you want to cry...in sadness and heartbreaking emotions... not tears of joy. just crying into your pillow...not letting anyone else see...don't want to appear fragile...yet you still come back to the source of your sadness...time and time again...because while the source brings sadness, it also brings joy, and feelings of love...the question is, is that enough? to be so happy with the source of most of your sadness, that you overlook the sadness, and just focus on how happy you are half the time...sometimes you just don't know...

another question...what is it that makes a strong, high-willed person lose their resolve, their audacity to speak their mind? how is it that someone has no trouble saying no to most, then when it comes to one special person in their life, the one who should understand them the most, they can't say no, especially to something that causes them pain and heartache? ...why can't they be strong...why? sometimes i guess you can just see that nobody can be superman all the time...

you sit there, just being with your best friend, your soul mate. just looking at them...and you see the love, the emotion in their eyes...and you can just feel their happiness...just being with you. and you feel the same way...and wonder how to express it...then something innocent turns into something more complicated...requires more than just a yes or no answer... and you just don't know how to answer...then it seems you answer against your will, and you're not sure of how you answered...then they ask something of you you're not sure you can give...and you find yourself giving it...you're disgusted with yourself...yet find yourself just wanting to please them...how have you fallen to this low that you can't say no...and you look at yourself and just cringe...you sigh, try to scrub it all away, rinse it all away...thinking maybe that will change it...and find nothing changed...you just curl up and cry. you wonder again how it all got this way, how one moment, one night can cause a world of change...........then you look up again out of your emotional reverie at your best friend, the one person you want to be with forever and always...and you just smile at the look on their face...the look that says they can't imagine anyplace they would rather be...and you melt and just want to stay forever in their embrace. and the circle is begun again...you wonder where you're going and if you'll have the strength to break the circle...or if you even want to...

everyday for a week, you'll hear flak from your parents about keeping to your dreams...dont' forget who you are...and you wonder ironically, how can you forget dreams you don't even know about any more? how can you forget who you are, when you never were sure who you were in the first place...simple ironies that make you grimace and cringe...just reminders that you are so far gone...beyond worry now...the looks you get from parents, friends...just a constant reminder that you disappoint them, time and time again...never able to do anything right...they nag, they prod...using the excuse they only want the best from you...only want to you to be all you can be...they just don't get you'll never be like them...don't see how hard you try to not be like them...don't want their life...you couldn't be them no matter how hard they may like it to be that way...pushing them further away...knowing that you disappoint them anyway, why not go all the way...push them so far away they really don't care anymore, don't have to see the hurt on their faces...the disappointed grimace...you just push farther and farther away...receding into yourself...whatever there is of you anyways...

on the outside, it appears life is just fine and dandy...no one even guesses the constant struggle day to day...no one sees the hurt...no one sees the pain...no one hears the sobs coming painfully from your very soul...so one knows the thoughts of despair...and you just continue on in the game...continue the cycle of pain and happiness... thinking you should end it, but then not sure if it's worth it...if you're worth it... you hope that one person you care the world for, can see beyond your mask...then when they do, you desperately wish that you could open up to the one person who really cares...tell them your doubts, your fears, your pains and how they make you feel low some days...they already hear your joys, but you hide your pains...can't bring yourself to tell them how things they do cause you pain, how you fear relationships with a passion, but want so much to be with them...yet your fears, irrational ones, push you away...but you can't tell them..for it's these same fears, these fears of really opening up to one person, that keep you from being true to yourself...you fear you'll just scare them, push them away with your feelings and thoughts...and by pulling away and closing in on yourself, you end up doing the one thing you fear...you push them away, make them think you don't want to be with them...that you don't care enough to tell them how you really feel...and you start again, hoping this time things will be different. they start different, but really just end the same...wishing you could get off this one track...try a new one...but somehow you can't...

so pretty much...you find yourself stuck...unable to help yourself...too proud, maybe just scared, maybe just not wanting, to ask for help...think maybe you're in this for a reason...and you just go to sleep, wishing for just a moments reprieve from your thoughts...thoughts threatening to weigh you down, pull you farther into this abyss you call life...

average jane signing off...

darion makes me happy, yet confused...

last night i had a dream...about darion. and you all know that dreams often are either our subconcious telling us something or something that is really on our mind. well, obviously darion is on my mind... :D

so my dream...well, i was in california. that much i remember. i don't know why cali, but i was there with darion. i had gotten there by plane. that i remember... but, we were in a church and darion was being the usher(the person who passes out the church programs of the meeting, for those who don't know what i mean...) and so i sat by him for a bit. i couldn't sit by him for very long cuz my parents were there at the church too and i think expected me to sit by them. but just sitting by him, i could really feel he liked me and we just talked. it was cool. and then i got up for something, and randomly this girl liz that, in the dream, was some ex-girlfriend of his in cali, came up to him and she hugged him. and i got oober jealous. tha's really all i remember.

but this is the first time in a long time that i've dreamt about a guy i like. the last one i dreamt about was a good friend that it turns out doesn't like me as more than a friend... and then before that dave...so i guess it's like making me realize how much i like him. i only dream about those that are seriously on my mind and i can't stop thinking about. Darion has been on my mind a lot in the past week. ever since he told me he loved me....i hope he means it. cuz i'm realizing just how far i've come to rely on him, and how far i've fallen for him. didn't do too well protecting my heart this time. oh well, my new saying is, (like my screen name for messenger..) "life is pain. anyone who says differently is selling something." that's a line off of princess bride. but i guess it's not all pain. there is some good mixed in with the pain. like friends...i have two i know will always be there to listen to me if i need to vent, to share my happy news with, to cry with, to laugh with, (even across the net. it's so still possible.) but also, i like the new linkin park song. i'm posting it like right now....

but so i'm seriously hoping that things develop between me and darion. i could use some positive stuff in my life...cuz choir is just bringing me down, no matter how hard i try to just keep above it...mmmm.. darion, happy thoughts....well i'm tired and it's time for me to be in bed. i have to perform tomorrow....ugh....wait happy thoughts...spencer-makes me laugh, darion-makes me happy and smile.... :D love you both so much

average jane signing off... (it's now 10:14 and i'm so exhausted...)

just getting by and graduating

so this morning in graces we had a powwow. i really didn't like it too much, at least in the beginning...cuz it was T jsut getting mad at me again. cuz supposedly T had a complete emotional breakdown yesterday. but i guess it ended well, cuz basically everyone was crying and some people had apologized to me for saying crap behind my back. but i still have some unresolved feelings towards T. i understand that she felt like i had started to step over the line and telling her what i would be doing....but at the same time. i did not disrespect her otherwise and i still am a little upset at her.

however, right now i'm just trying to get by and graduate. so i'm just forgeting all of this and moving on. just getting by and finishing out the year....and focusing on happier thoughts. like darion. a sweetheart... :D so yeah that's life...

oh and btw. maybe i didn't lose all my friends, some are still mad at me, but then they never really were my friends if they hate me...

life is pain and you get over it

so now i'm already finding out some repurcussions of what happened today between me and mrs. t.....i heard it caused her to have a bad day and that a lot of ppl were crying. i didn't mean for it to blow up like this....not at all... but i don't go back on anything i did. i simply was voicing the thoughts that i'd had for a long time. maybe i could have been nicer, but if i hadn't have said these things, i would have blown up worse... but now i've got a member of graces crying. our president. i heard it from a friend that has T after me... can i just say i hate life. a whole part of me is dreading going to graces tomorrow morning. cuz i don't want to get the dirty looks and glares i know that i'm gonna get tomorrow. i dont' want to deal with that shit...i've already had enough. i've already cried enough. man i hate high school and can't wait to be rid of it....too much drama....teachers that don't treat us like adults....or equals. we have ideas and are bright and smart, and sometimes they treat us like we're two. some ppl deserve that cuz that is how they act....but, some really try to get their point across and teachers just lazily push it aside... i hate it....

well, so my night was going okay for once at young womens even though i hate it. then i came home and started talking to a friend and it got all the whole issue of today back up... but at opening exercises of young womens/young mens.... i saw darion. he got to conduct the meeting...lol but might i say he looked incredibly hot. i don't know what it was about him... maybe jsut the simple jean shorts and loose white tee. just the simpleness of it all. and he was just so cute. i wanted to just hug him for like forever. he gives the greatest hugs....and then he gave me a hug when the guys and girls separated. a really amzing hug. gosh i really like him. he's a sweetheart...i really think that this time he won't hurt me. really. and i guess this is just saying that i'm going for it! i'll talk to him on sunday for a while and who knows what will happen??!!! lol :D i'm just gonna focus on that right now to make me happy... :D

average jane signing off....( i'm moving past my issues and forgeting guys that don't like me as i like them.... i'm moving on to guys that like me, a lot *wink*, and that i really like back...)

isn't doing the right thing supposed to feel good?

today started okay. a seminary talent show that had one good act, the skafisciando (i think that's how it's spelled) band. they were pretty good. but then i went to choir class and i got a candy bar...really yummy and just made the day still good. and we got to sing an awsome song in choir. it's called "seize the day" from the musical newsies! i love it a lot. but anyhoo..then at lunch was when the day just progressed to worse. so i was sitting at the lunch table, and a sort of friend of my sister's sat next to us. i have to say i most of the time can't stand the girl. but, after she left i made a couple of comments about not really liking her. next to me sat a sort of friend of mine, tiffany. ugh.
(but as background knowledge, about a few weeks or a month ago, i was in a really bad mood. and i had been a bit rude to some ppl. it had been going on for a little while. and really flared up one day at lunch and then when i went to get my lunch, my sister told me that tiffany had said, "i am so sick of her attitude." and a couple of the other girls agreed. it was stupid.)
so back to the story...tiffany then turned to us and said, "okay well, let's not say anything else mean behind her back. i know i don't like it when ppl do it.." and i was like whatever. then i stood up to leave and said,"you're one to talk about not talking behind people's back! " then i left....i couldn't take that anymore.
then i walked with a friend to my locker....and she made me laugh. we totally just lightened up. but then we went to our first travel and tourism class. so we had taken a test two times before. and last time we had been lectured by mr. allred. a boy in our class (let's call him JE) had been bragging that he stole the key to the test and copied it to ace the test. and he really had. so today. some ppl still had to take the test. and our teacher grades on a curve. so if JE got 100, then we all would be screwed, cuz smith's tests are hard. and he hadn't come to class yet, so i went up to smith and told him in private that JE had been bragging he'd cheated on the test. and smith told me he already knew that, but thanked me for coming forward. so then i sat down and worked. JEcame in and smith took him out and talked to him, telling him he needed to retake the test. JE refused to saying he had already taken it. smith told him, oops i lost it. JE complained saying he'd take it to the front office and principal. so smith said go ahead. JE left and then didn't come back for a while. then he came back and said smith can i have the ch. 5 questions. and smith said you need to take your test first. JE said to just give him a 0 and leave it at that. but smith said no let's go talk to the administration. so JE said whatever... then turned to me(i sit on the front row) and said i have something for you, and then flipped me off and said fuck you. i said eff you back. i don't care. then he left with smith.... and then the class started talking about it all. and they all knew by then that i had said something. they joked about what JE said. and then i explained that i had only told smith that i had heard him bragging about cheating on this past test. they got mad at me saying it wasn't this test he had cheated on and that no one believed JE and how terrible it was. i felt like they were laying into me and i couldnt take it anymore so i just took the hallpass and left class. i walked around for about 10 min, then went back to class. i walk in and smith pulls me out again. he thanked me for coming forward and apologized for what jeramy said... i told him it doesn't matter, i don't care. but it did matter. i did what was right. and yet i got shit for it. like if it had been a few answers on the test, whatever, that's their business. but when you cheat on the whole test with the guaranteed answers, then it involves me and screws me over. it's not right. and smith told me that JE did admit to cheating on the test. but still said i deserved to be flipped off. so now i know he'll resent me for quite some time, possibly the rest of my life. but i had to say something. last time something like this happened, the other kids in the class tried to turn around the situation by saying what if your best friend did this? would you still rat them out? i told them i absolutely would, but, i don't make it my business to be friends with terrible cheaters like that. so in this situation, JE was a friend. not a best friend or anything but i liked him. he was funny. but i couldn't let him screw the rest of us over. it sucked and then the rest of the class still believed he hadn't cheated......it annoyed me cuz i know they were talking about me behind my back. and i hate that. i will go to someone's face and tell them if i have a real problem with them. anyhoo.... that's my ranting

so now with this mood, my song right now is "heavily broken" by the veronicas.... some of the lyrics are:
"everyday i sit here waiting/ everyday just seems so long/ now i've had enough of all the hating/ to even care it's so unfair......it never ends/ im heavily broken/ and i dont' know what to do/can't you see that i'm chokin, and i can't even move/ when there's nothing left to say, what can you do/ i'm heavily broken and there's nothing i can do/ almost giving on trying..... feels like i'm drowning/i'm screaming for air.../ and you don't even care.."

cuz i'm just sick and tired of the drama of high school. i don't want to be here and dealing with it. graduation almost can't come fast enough. it is kind of a comfort to know that after it, i won't have to see some ppl anymore. i can't stand it. i hate school. i have almost no motivation to finish, except the fact that it's only a month left. and i was trying to get my grades up to stay in national honor society and graduate with the cords, but it's just too much and i dont think i can pull back up this late in the game. i'll try to bring things up, but i don't know if i can....it's just too much right now. too much stress.

but there was one bright spot in my day. i got an email from a really good friend, and it really made my day. to just hear from him and get an email was awsome. it may not have been an entirely happy email, but just to be talking to him sometimes makes my day. he has a way of making me laugh. i know that my day is just better to say hi to him in the hallway at school. been my best friend for a while. thank god for friends. but anyhoo.... so my day has kind of just leveled out into a blah now.....and it's probably just gonna stay at that. but it's better than a day from hell. i was even in a good mood this morning cuz i meditated for a bit and it really centered me. and i had an oober cute hairdo. i had pigtail braids! i was in a funsy mood this morning. so that kind of shows how much the run ins with tiff and JE really hurt me and threw me off. but i'm okay for now...

average jane signing off. (friends are quiet angels who pick you up when your wings have trouble remembering how to fly....)