easter stuff and prayers

so i hope you all had a fantastic easter! mine was pretty good up until 10 pm last night... so i had an easter party at my aunts house on saturday afternoon and one of our traditions is to have leg races. there are three types we do. the typical just all out sprint. then the three legged race and the gunny sack races. well, i won the sprint race for my age group! lol i was in the 18 or older women group, who hadn't had kids yet. lol the married ladies insisted on a separate group for them that had had kids lol!! but i won! i was slow gettin off, but once i got going i was goin! LOL but now i'm paying for it today lol my legs are sore! but i couldn't be more proud! lol but the three legged race i do every year with my cousin tamra. it's tradition, cuz we are really close, great friends lol. but also, no matter that she is like 6 yrs younger than me, we've always been the same heighth. lol her family jsut has really tall kids lol. but yeah....then saturday night i went and saw the movie juno. it was really good to be honest. it was a bit different than i thought it was gonna be like, but it was really good. two lines that really stood out to me, was an exchange between the main character, Juno, and her dad. she just told her dad and stepmom that she is pregnant. and they kind of are absorbing it. then her dad says, "i thought you were the kind of girl that knew when to say when." then Juno says, " i don't know what kind of girl i am." like those lines just totally connected with me...

anyhoo, but i went to the movie with my friend tyler. we had a riot! lol he is just a goof! lol but yeah...

but then on sunday of course the easter bunny came lol. it was good...but then i just kind of caught up on homework and cleaned my room and did my laundry. oh and of course went to church... but then i was ready to turn in at about 10:00 pm...but then i get this text from my friend tyler. pretty much it said please put Julian in your prayers. and pray he will be okay. this made me worried and of course i texted tyler back to find out what was wrong. turns out our friend julian has a virus in his heart and is in intensive care at the new hospital! so of course, even though i'm not that religious, i said a prayer for him. this morning i asked my family at family prayer that whoever's turn it was to pray, if they would include julian in their prayers.

so now i ask all of you that will read this, please put and keep my friend julian in your prayers. pray that he will pull through this and the doctors can find out how to help him. pray that they can find a way to get through all of this.

thanx

averagejane signing off...

speeding thoughts

well, so i know its weird but i'm bloggin again. but have you ever felt like you can just feel your life spinning out of control? that you need to do something to feel like you are in control? well, i always hear about how ppl are anorexic and don't eat because that may be the one thing in their life they can control. well, in my life, i just drive. i drive with no real direction. and the key to my driving is speed. i go fast and faster. last night i was driving home from my friend's house in sandy. and i was just driving down a basically empty freeway. and i almost got to 100 mph. i was around 95 mph. i like the speed cuz i prove to myself that on the turns or anything else that i can keep control. i love speed and the feel of the car dangerously speeding down the road. the risk of having the car going so fast. that at any turn it could spin out. but i have control...

that was how i was feeling last night and it contiues on somewhat to this morning. and the song today is "show me love", by t.A.T.u. again. (lyrics at http://artists.letssingit.com/tatu-lyrics-show-me-love-extended-version-w596wcd) but it just is my mood telling guys that make all these promises to me that they never fulfill. and right now i want the feeling that comes from having that special some one. cuz i'm just kind of in a rut in my life. or maybe not really a rut. but more that i have a facade that i put on for the whole world that never really is me. i find myself acting to please more often than not, as crazy as that my sound coming from me. i agree with ppl, cuz i want to fit in. i may put on this façade that i don't care. but i took this quiz about what my greatest fear is. and you think of the normal fears like spiders and the dark, and snakes. but this quiz hit it dead on. i may not like snakes or othre creepy crawlers. but my biggest fear is not being accepted. i rearely feel like i truly fit in anywhere. so if i let you in my life and if i truly consider you my best friend, then feel lucky. not that it's an honor or that i'm special or anything. just i have a hard time really letting ppl into who i am. for what i post here is merely the surface of what is me. and i guess sometimes i define myself by who i'm with. like they define how i act and who i talk to. it's complicated. but yeah... now i've babbled long enough.

average jane signing off

A humongous update!! :D

a lot has gone on recently. i guess i've just been too lazy to tell it all...so now i have the time plus the motivation.

so, friday was an interesting day that began most of it. that would be october 5th. the day of my friend steph's wedding. well, so after work and in between going to her reception, i went to walmart with my sister. while there i saw my friend, jay funk, who i haven't really seen or talked to in like a year or so. he lives in my neighborhood, but because we both have lives and he has a full time job at desert star, where i used to work, we rarely see each other. but i have to admit that i really had a crush on him while i worked with him. he's only like 3 or 4 yrs. older than me. and seeing him again made me realize that i still have a crush on him. and can i jsut say that he gives great hugs!! i could just melt in his hugs... but we talked a bit and then i had to go. but we exchanged phone numbers...

so then it was time for stephs reception. so i threw on a skirt, then went to harmons for a card. it took me forever to find the right one that didn't seem all formal and old people-ish. and finally i found the perfect one. it said something along the lines of " i now pronounce you pookie and shnookums." and on the inside,"awww..." that totally fit steph and dave. cuz there was a time when steph was trying out pet names for dave. and we had names like shnookums and such. it was a riot. and dave's face each time we tried a new name was funny... lol so i got that card. then i went to the reception. i managed to get there right when steph was throwing the bouquet. she saw me come in and yelled at me to get over there. lol so i thought okay i can do this. cuz i have to admit that i was terribly worried how things would be. so then i kind of stepped back while the whole wedding group got some pics taken. and i was gonna go sit down at a table. but then looking over, i knew maybe two ppl there. and i wasn't sure how things were with them. and that's when i started to get teary eyed. cuz it was weird that a place that i used to feel was like my second home, now i felt so out of place in. and that's one of the worst things for me is to feel out of place. or not accepted. but the second thing didnt' apply this time.

so then i went through the line, and i gave sharon, steph's little sister a hug. then i went to stephs parents. and they made me feel good all over. cuz her dad is just like, "hey amybird!" (that name is an inside joke, that turned to our special thing) and then he acted like we had never met and said, "hi i'm the father of the bride," then turning to his wife, "and this is my wife." lol i shook their hands and played along with it. i love stephs parents beyond anything. they are my fav. but then i talked to steph and then on to dave's mom. she introduced herself and said that she thought she might have met me before. and i said yeah that i'd hung out with dave sometimes at their house. i didn't think it tactful to mention i had gone out with him, seein as he just got married. not that it mattered that we dated as we really just ended up friends. but yeah. then i talked to nathan, my bestest friend who was the best man. and i said and you are? and he introduced himself like we had never met. then he gave me a hug and said, "i don't normally hug strangers, but i have a feeling abt this." lol that really made me laugh. we chatted a minute then i just had to go. cuz i guess i had come hoping that everything would be back to normal. somehow. but then just being there and seeing how happy steph was, was just a reminder that nothing would be the same anymore. so neeedless to say, by the time i got to the parking lot, tears were streaming down my cheeks. i've always wondered abt when they say tears streaming down their cheeks. well, that's how it was. the tears just came. and i guess i made it worse driving home cuz i had a song playing called "for good" from the musical wicked. and one part really hit me. there is a part that says, (Elphaeba singing) "and just to clear the air i ask forgiveness for the things i've done you've blamed me for." (Glinda) "but then i guess we know there's blame to share, " (both) "and none of it seems to matter any more." so that reminded me of how steph and i had realized that we both had made stupid decisions and that ended our friendship. and i guess i wish i could say it doesn't matter anymore. but the fact is it does. cuz, nothing will be the same again. and i lost a best friend. and no matter how i try things wont' be the same. and a good portion of that is due to how i've changed over the summer. i have made more friends. but not to say they will ever replace my friendship with steph, but i've adapted and no longer will ever have one sole friendship that i rely on. cuz if things go sour, then it won't hurt as much, cuz it's not like my whole life is with that person.

well, now i got off on a tangent... so as i was driving home, i found out that my friend jay has a girlfriend so i was like oh. whatev. then i get a random text from my friend art. well, to make a long story short, he asked if i had a crush. and i told him i had two. and then he asked who they were. then asked if he were one of them. and so i told him that yes he was. and turns out he kinda likes me too. but i guess he's worried a bit about the whole dating some one from work. so yah. but i ran into him at walmart on saturday. and my sister was with me and she said that he definitely likes me! lol so that boosted me. but then when i came to work on monday, it was just like things were normal. but yeah. we might hang this weekend.

so then i hung with holly on sunday night and we just had a talk abt art and life and everything else. it was good. and i think what i really needed. good times... :)

but then lets see...oh the point of the above paragraph. well, while hangin with holly i was texting a friend cody. and then at one point i told him abt holly and he said i should hook them up. then i told him to ask chris about holly. so then he actually asked someone else about holly and they told cody she wasnt cute at all. and i got offended. so between this on monday and last night, tuesday, cody got the idea that i was mad at him, when i'm not. i'm just kind of mad at the person who said this abt. holly, most likely cuz she's a bit overweight, but freakin gorgeous, i think. anyhoo, so he texts me last night abt all this. well, so i tell him i'm not mad at him. and clear up this misunderstanding. then he said, btw you owe me a massage. and this was all from an earlier conversation. so i said, lol i'll give you that massage when you finally ask me out! ( cuz he keeps saying he'll ask me out. but just makes excuses.) then he replied, i'll ask you out if you dont deny me when i kiss you. so i replied, well i might be able to make that compromise...we'll see if you ask me out! so then he said, If you promise ill ask you out this weekend. so that totally caught me off guard. cuz he's been making excuses for weeks and now he's saying that he'll ask me out this weekend. so i had to think for a bit and acutally got advice from holly. so what i ended up telling him that i wouldn't deny him if he kissed me. but i told him if that's all he wanted from me then i would deny him. cuz i don't get down like that. never again. so we have that settled. but he has yet to ask me out. but if he doesnt' ask me out by thursday, i'll say no cuz i'll have plans of some sort. so as not to appear easy. cuz i'm not.

so yeah. that's abt what is all happening!! wow, that's a lot. so yeah...

well, there is this group called t.A.T.u. that i absolutely love and i just got their first CD. cuz i like it best. and there is this song called "all the things she said." and it's the song on my mind now cuz my mind keeps goin over everything art and cody said. like i don't think i like cody much anymore, except that he's cute and can be nice. and it would be fun to go out with him... but yeah... i'm just looking for casual dating. and it would be that with cody.
so yeah...

average jane signing off..

ps. btw cody smells really good, today especially. lol he just walked past me...mmmm..

EDIT: so after posting this all, i just had somethin else i was reminded to post. cuz i have to say that there is actually one guy that i like but dont' pursue anything with beyond friends. cuz he's already got a girlfriend. and she's so nice and sweet that i wouldn't think of even doin anything to get between them even if i could. (his name is casey, btw) but he's just way cute and just the right look that really makes me sigh. then art also has that look too...but just not the same as casey...*sigh*

hard things to do...

i just did one of the hardest things for myself just now. it took a great deal of courage to do it. but i can't explain now. i will in about a week or so. cuz in doing so it will let out things i don't want to tell of at the moment. but it was hard. and i don't even know why i'm writing this, but i am. cuz i really would have rather not do it. but i know it would make a friend incredibly happy. so i did it. and i hope it all works out.

in my situation at work, i just had the most random thought. i behaved similarly to how chris is acting now, as when i did with steph and dave. i was just gettin mad at chris and casey for buttin into my business, when that is just what i did in steph and dave's case. that was none of my business. i should have just stated how i felt and left it at that. they seem happy together. and i should have jsut left it at that. but no i had to be childish and just be oober jealous that steph was spending more time with dave than me. and i guess that's just how it goes. i admit i was jealous. i felt that steph was abandoning me and choosing dave over me. and she was choosing to be with dave. so we both played a part. but i definitely acted childish in my actions. so here i apologize once again steph and dave for all that i've done. i should've butted out. sorry...i don't expect us to be friends in the near future at all, but at least maybe we can just let this settle and talk civily to each other. i guess it took me having a similar situation to see that i was acting almost as childish as chris.

you know, this year has been a time of growing up. especially this summer...i'm learning to take responsibility like in my job, and i'm learning that i acted really childish in some things. time to be more grown up. time to stop sulking and feeling sorry for myself. way stupid. but i have to say that there hardly is a day that goes by that i don't wish i still had steph to talk to, to hang out with. i'll do or hear little things that remind me of some fun thing me and steph did. like how she was green and i was red. and last christmas, her gift said to red from green. or the one night that she was driving me home at like 2 in the morning. we were at a stoplight and it was red. she was saying, "red! red! red! red! " trying to get it to change so we could go and i was like "don't you mean green?" lol we bust up laughing cuz we were so tired and giddy. and other memories, like how she insists on spelling uber like "oober" . she won't spell it any other way! lol good times that are past. well, i guess it only hurts to dwell on the past. but everything happens for a reason. that i believe with all my heart. i wish that i hadn't had to ruin a friendship for my life to take this path.but i have found that this path is where im meant to be for now. and smart person learns from their mistakes. so i'm learning, very slowly i admit.

so i doubt steph or dave will read this, but if they do, i hope they know that i really am sorry. please forgive my childish acts...

well, yeah... thats' all for now..

averagejane signing off.... (sorry.

a good movie, but better if i had my friend to share it with

so i went and saw pirates of the carribean 3 last night at 8pm!!!! can i just say amzing!!! it was so good. very well put together and so suspenseful! i was on the edge of my seat, literally, for at least half of the movie. and jack sparrow is a hoot! he keeps the movie running once again. my favorite line from him is "Nobody move! I lost my brain!!" lol you'll just have to see it to understand what i'm talkin about. oh and we got these free scarves that have a skull and cross bones on them that come from disneyland and cost $22.00 normally!!! they are so cool!! i'm wearing mine to school today to show it off. cuz i mean it's a shame to get it and not be able to wear it just cuz it's summer and warmish weather already! lol anyhoo, so that was awsome.

but also i came on to say that i miss my best friend, a lot. i miss how we used to talk about everything. and i know that i'm to blame for half of it falling apart. i need to just get over whatever unresolved issues i have with dave or steph. cuz i miss having her to talk to. and i'm sort of letting my pride get in the way of us being just friends again. like i'm not sayin i can be best friends again and trust her just as much. but i miss her as just a friend. i miss talking to her and telling her my good and bad stuff. and for the second time in the longest while, my mom said something that actually was something i could use. she said that sometimes you just need to renegotiate a relationship. because i think the hardest thing is that i want our relationship to be the same, when it's not. so maybe it's time to just start over and create a new relationship with steph as just friends, someone i can talk to. and actually not necessarily starting over. just reorganizing our friendship so that we don't keep making these stupid mistakes. cuz no matter how many times i say that oh i have other friends and that i can survive without a best friend, i still want steph as my friend. i want to be happy for her when she gets married. i want to be her best friend supporting her through whatever decisions she makes, even if i don't always agree. cuz that's what friendship is about. we've both made mistakes. we've both been at fault. and once again i let my pride get in the way. so i guess i'm just sayin that i miss steph a lot....

so maybe i'll print this out for her to read, cuz i know if i try to tell her it all, i'll probably just start crying. and i've already done enough crying....

anyhoo, i'm okay and i hope i can work things out...

averagejane signing off..
(oh ps. so i might get to move up in my job at steve regan. i'll explain later! )

never again...

right now the world could not be any worse. i feel like bawling and curling up in a ball and never going back out in the world. i now have truly and forever lost my best friend. we've been fighting and been out of sorts for months. but now it's come to an end for real. because we both have just given up. and i read her blog and she said she's given up. i never thought it would hurt so much to realize it for real, but it's like me heart is breaking into a million pieces. i didn't know that i was still holding onto a hope that it would all work out. but i guess this is it. somehow i'll find a way to mend my heart, but from now on i'm locking it up securely so that i can never have it broken again. never again. ever.

so for today i will cry and then tomorrow i have to move on. there's no way to repair a friendship that both have given up on. so now i need to just give up, for real. it's not like i can bear to talk to her without fear of falling apart and bawling. and i hate more than anything, falling apart in from of people. so i guess this is truly the end.

my life starts over tomorrow.

averagejane signing off..

a public thank you

hey i am okay. i'm just not gonna have expectations for anyone anymore. once again it's just that friends disappoint. mabye it's partly me just getting to emotional. ... and im just disappointed in guys in general. i've let myself be disappointed for far too long. it's time i face up to reality. and i really am gonna try this time. so i'm kind of just gonna be acquaintances/friends with most ppl, and nothing more. except for those i truly know that can stand the trials and such of friendship. one that comes to mind is nathan. nathan and i have gone through our share of trials and i know that nothing can change us being best friends. i don't talk to him as much as i would like. but i just know that he's always there and truly cares. i've thought so this way with so many others over my life so far, but i was wrong almost every time. and with another friend, he's also just always there, making sure i'm okay. sending me emails. doing what he can to make sure i'm okay. others may say that's creepy as we've never met, but somedays, it's totally what i need. i want to feel accepted and loved, no matter how hard i try to say i can make it on my own. and he makes me feel accepted, appreciated...

this isn't a post to point fingers or criticize. it's simply to say that i'm grateful for the two ppl in my life that i really trust most and know that will always be there for me. an email from one of them really got me to writing this, because i was explaining part of this to them. but yeah. so i really am okay. i'm moving on, yet holding on to my dear friends....

average jane signing off.( friends are truly angels...)

disappointed no more

let me just say i hate life. i just let myself be disappointed time and time again. i tell myself not to set myself up to be disappointed, yet i don't listen to myself. yet again i let myself be excited for plans made with my best friend. and yet again i was disappointed. this is not to be a criticism to anyone. this is simply my thoughts and feelings. i set myself up for disappointment. again. fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me. and in more situation than one this weekend.

so here's my weekend. so graduation on saturday for travel and tourism. pretty cool. i get fun cords to wear for real graduation. and the food was good afterwards. :D so then after that i had to go to a family reunion. ugh. the only fun part was i got to play with my little cousin timmy. he's a cutie. and man can he talk! :O lol but then i went home and took a bubble bath to relax, then a shower to wash my hair. but i found i didn't have time to blow my hair dry, so i just scrunched it into curls and let it dry that way. really looked terrible. but anyhoo, i took a jello to our party at crowther's house (my teacher). and it ended up i was the only one who ate it. so it melted while it just sat there. and my friend left early so i kind of just sat around and ppl watched. anyhoo, so i left around 7:30pm. then i went to my car, and as i was walking, my jello leaked out of its pan cuz i was holding it funny. ended up leaking in my car. a mess to clean up. so i was ticked off by the time i got home. then, i called my friend to see if she had gotten back from the ball/dinner thingy she went to with her boyfriend. she didn't answer. i called three times by the time it was 8:30 and still no answer. and i was hurt. cuz she had told me it was our night. we were gonna do something. but guess not. (didn't even call back that night). anyhoo, so i decided to go to the region dance. didn't even know there was one until that night. so i spent a half-hour figuring out where it was. then i got there and i found darion. well, after i hung out with meisha and alexis for a bit. and we talked a bit, joked around. and i got him to dance one slow dance with me...:D (he hates dancing btw) but then he was back to his normal self of acting like we were just friends. and so once again i was disappointed. twice in a night. i went to the dance hoping to have some good music, good ppl and get in a better mood. ha...didn't work. but then i ended up flipping darion off twice that night. i really wasn't altogether really pissed off at him. it was more a combination of my friend earlier mixed with his childish mind games. but yeah. so it just sucks.

then today. my friend arrived late to class today. but she had good reason. no problem there. then she apologized for not answering her phone. i still don't know why she didn't answer. but then i explained to her that i had been hurt that we didn't hold to our plans. we were gonna do something. like maybe a movie or sumthin. nothing set, but we had planned it to be our night, or so i thought. and i didn't get angry or act mad. i just was hurt. kind of story of my life.

so i guess i need to stop fooling myself.and not to expect so much of others. out there in the real world, i won't have anyone. just me and me alone. i've learned that guys are not to be depended on. and learned to never like a guy younger than me. they're too immature. i thought darion would be different. but i guess not. silly me.

anyhoo, so from now on, i will focus on getting myself where i need to be in the world. no more expecting anything from ppl that are supposed to be best friends. i guess boys come over friendship...silly me. but from now on, i really am gonna change all this.

also, i was gonna not say anything to anyone. but i was gonna get a cell phone and service. but now it doesn't matter that i say anything. cuz i won't be getting one. what does it matter to have one if i dont have anyone to talk to? it's just a waste of money. this summer i'm gonna work to buy a car. that at least can get me somewhere. i can drive far away from utah. far away from those who disappoint. far away from anyone who knows me. i can get on my own and build my own life.

i don't know why i'm writing all this, as i don't care if anyone comments. i won't be reading them...but, i guess this time it's really just for me...

average jane signing off....

an explanation and more news!

so i guess now is as good a time as any to explain something. well, so i mentioned in an earlier post about how boys are stupid. well, tha's true in and of itself most times. but, so the guy i mentioned that said he loved me. well, i really didn't take it as too serious beyond the fact that he possibly liked me in that way. so i kind of just started to let myself like him again. not too far... i still was okay. just enough to get hurt when i found out that it was just like last time. i'm just a backup plan. stupid and pointless. anyhoo, let me explain in more depth.

so first some background. well, darion is a foster boy. he lives in a house with 3 other guys. one of them is named jay. he went out with a girl sophie. she cheated on him, so he cheated on her. they broke up. then they got back together cuz she said she was done cheating on him. then jay cheated on her. they broke up.

anyhoo, so it appears that last region dance, darion asked sophie to go out with him.. she said she'd think about it even though she already had a boyfriend, unbeknownst to darion. he found out when she told him she didn't want to go out with him. this all happened when i was in cali. then i guess, when he was rejected he turned his affections towards me. but, i didnt' know this until this past sunday...heard it from another friend. and then just the past week he's not been really talking to me as much or anything...so yeah... but really i'm okay. i guess i should have seen it comin. and maybe a part of me did, cuz it's really not so bad when i heard it.

but yeah. and i think maybe my friend and i have kind of patched things up...i think we'll be okay...

anyhoo, i'm really in a good mood. i kind of played hooky from work and went and visited steph cuz she's sick. it was good to talk to her. we might not go to senior breakout at t-ville, we might do the kearns one... cuz it's at kearns oquirrh park fitness center and will have food, a slip n' slide, games, movies! sounds like fun, plus it's like 10 or 15 dollars cheaper than t-ville's!! :D anyhoo, i'm gonna quit now and go to the library. luv you all! :D

average jane signing off!! :D

learning just not to expect anything...

so i just got off the phone from talking to my brother. i guess it was kind of cool to hear from him. but at the same time kind of just reminding me that he's not the same brother i knew before he left. he's changing and it kind of hurts to know that. like i guess technically it's not a bad thing. he's getting more churchy. and i love him to pieces, but i just wanted a normal conversation with him and he couldn't leave the conversation at that. he had to finish the conversation telling me how important the gospel is and that we have to do it together as a family to be together in the end. and it's great that he's got so much conviction, but i really don't want to hear it.

and what really irks me about the last call is that i got work off to talk to him, and i got a lousy five minutes before my dad interrupted and had my mom talk. i wasn't done talking. and the majority of that five minutes was eric asking me to get him some cds. i felt like it was pointless to even be there. and it didn't seem like my brother really cared that mom interrupted me. it made me mad and hurt. that's why i almost didn't talk to him this time. i hate that my parents basically didn't even care.

but on top of all this drama, i just feel like i've been losing a good friend, and that i'm just getting my hopes up to high when it comes to my love life. i have too high of expectations and i just learned that i need to just not expect anything when it comes to guys. i keep setting up myself to be disappointed. kind of a pattern in my life. a pattern i am now stoping. i have learned my lesson. no more will i expect anything of guys. cuz i can't take it anymore.

and the friend i mentioned. i don't know what to do or say anymore. it's like they are never there anymore. and i guess i wish things could go back to how they used to be. but at the same time, i don't want things to go back just to have them change again in a few months or so. cuz it's easier to just not expect much and then i won't be as hurt or disappointed. like i just finished talking to this friend, and you know, i don't care anymore. cuz maybe i am a selfish bitch in wanting this person to be here more for me. but, it just hurts that we had gotten so close, and then when they hooked up with someone, it seemed like they had not much time in their life for me. it hurt. still does. a part of me still wants it to change. a lot. because i miss them and how things used to be. but my head keeps telling me to not set myself up to be pushed aside again. so i'm just pushing this person aside. keeping myself from getting hurt. this person said that it seemed that i was finding any reason to be mad at them lately. and maybe i was, but only to avoid the real hurt, real reason. that's the fact that it hurts to feel abandoned. really bad. so yeah. that's out in the open. anyhoo, so my new thing. just not gonna expect anything anymore, it's just life. and it hurts. and right now i'm crying. yup. you read that right. i'm just sick of this. i'm done with it.

but don't worry i'll be okay. thanx to some good friends i have. nathan. just having you as a friend means the world. you could not possibly know how much it means to just know that you will always be here for me. even when i'm a whiny, selfish, crazy mess. *sad smile* and spencer. i know that there will be days when i don't talk to you. but you really have no idea how much it means. . . .

anyhoo, i'm done with this.

average jane signing off..(life's a bitch and then you die..)

letting go of what i've done, but happy memories

right now i'm jsut terribly sick of hearing all those love stories of girls and their boyfriends. well, maybe it's just my friends' stories i'm sick of. i hate hearing how happy they are and all the details. maybe it's cuz i'm bitter that my love life basically sucks...cuz sure i have guys that possibly things could happen with, but right now, nothing is happening. that is cuz i don't see darion much during the week... like somedays i see him at lunch time, sometimes walking home from school. and i really want to see him and talk to him, maybe i'm getting my hopes up too high... cuz i still don't know that he meant i love you in more than friendship way. i'll definitely get to him tomorrow. cuz he's always at church lately. it's the one thing i look forward to on sundays, seeing darion. he makes me laugh, makes me happy...most of the time. he can get on my nerves a bit, like everyone else. but overall we're good.. and i know this whole moping over darion is getting old so i'll move on...

well yesterday was state choir competitions. graces got all 1s. concert choir got two 1s and a 1-. yeah graces kick butt!!!! :D

but also yesterday i went and played some ultimate frisbee. well, i tossed around a frisbee with ryan thatcher, but i didn't actually play in the game. maybe next friday i will. i just have to get better with the whole game... i found out that i can catch okay, but my throwing could be improved... a lot! :D lol it was fun though, even though my butt is sore...probably from running and actually doing something instead of just sitting and watching a movie on a friday night! it really was cool and we were there until like 11 pm. fun stuff...

but unfortunately i have to work today. ugh at lambert floral. but i'm working from 11am to 6pm when they close. i'm leaving right after the last person leaves. i don't plan on staying around to help! yeah right, i did that last time. stayed to help. and i was there until almost 7 pm. naw i need to come home and rest.

oh and the other day i had this amzing conversation with my friend jay hansen. i was walking home from school and caught up to him. and we really talked like he and i havent' in a while. it was cool cuz i felt a new connection with him, like i hadn't felt in who knows how long. cuz we've both just kind of been caught up in school and friends and other stuff. but it was way good...cuz after we parted at my house, he's like, "i'll see you again soon, right?" i replied "most definitely." because i like talking to jay. he's really a great guy.

anyhoo, i have to just say that it's been an interesting week. i really haven't talked to a friend much this week, cuz i guess it just seems she's always with her boyfriend, and maybe that's not true, but i guess i just feel that way. maybe thats why i feel like i'm kind of just going back to how i was junior year. i had a lot of great friends, but the best i had was nathan... and i guess the reason i'm back to how it was in junior year...is cuz i know that nathan'll always be there to talk to if i need to. i know that is not gonna change. anyhoo, i'm gettin mushy and i really hate that some times... but life is okay. i survive. and right now i really do like that new linkin park song i posted. it's a song about just washing away all the crap of the world. it's about taking away what i've become and jsut starting new...i wish i could do that. but anyhoo, i've babbled enough...

average jane signing off...

isn't doing the right thing supposed to feel good?

today started okay. a seminary talent show that had one good act, the skafisciando (i think that's how it's spelled) band. they were pretty good. but then i went to choir class and i got a candy bar...really yummy and just made the day still good. and we got to sing an awsome song in choir. it's called "seize the day" from the musical newsies! i love it a lot. but anyhoo..then at lunch was when the day just progressed to worse. so i was sitting at the lunch table, and a sort of friend of my sister's sat next to us. i have to say i most of the time can't stand the girl. but, after she left i made a couple of comments about not really liking her. next to me sat a sort of friend of mine, tiffany. ugh.
(but as background knowledge, about a few weeks or a month ago, i was in a really bad mood. and i had been a bit rude to some ppl. it had been going on for a little while. and really flared up one day at lunch and then when i went to get my lunch, my sister told me that tiffany had said, "i am so sick of her attitude." and a couple of the other girls agreed. it was stupid.)
so back to the story...tiffany then turned to us and said, "okay well, let's not say anything else mean behind her back. i know i don't like it when ppl do it.." and i was like whatever. then i stood up to leave and said,"you're one to talk about not talking behind people's back! " then i left....i couldn't take that anymore.
then i walked with a friend to my locker....and she made me laugh. we totally just lightened up. but then we went to our first travel and tourism class. so we had taken a test two times before. and last time we had been lectured by mr. allred. a boy in our class (let's call him JE) had been bragging that he stole the key to the test and copied it to ace the test. and he really had. so today. some ppl still had to take the test. and our teacher grades on a curve. so if JE got 100, then we all would be screwed, cuz smith's tests are hard. and he hadn't come to class yet, so i went up to smith and told him in private that JE had been bragging he'd cheated on the test. and smith told me he already knew that, but thanked me for coming forward. so then i sat down and worked. JEcame in and smith took him out and talked to him, telling him he needed to retake the test. JE refused to saying he had already taken it. smith told him, oops i lost it. JE complained saying he'd take it to the front office and principal. so smith said go ahead. JE left and then didn't come back for a while. then he came back and said smith can i have the ch. 5 questions. and smith said you need to take your test first. JE said to just give him a 0 and leave it at that. but smith said no let's go talk to the administration. so JE said whatever... then turned to me(i sit on the front row) and said i have something for you, and then flipped me off and said fuck you. i said eff you back. i don't care. then he left with smith.... and then the class started talking about it all. and they all knew by then that i had said something. they joked about what JE said. and then i explained that i had only told smith that i had heard him bragging about cheating on this past test. they got mad at me saying it wasn't this test he had cheated on and that no one believed JE and how terrible it was. i felt like they were laying into me and i couldnt take it anymore so i just took the hallpass and left class. i walked around for about 10 min, then went back to class. i walk in and smith pulls me out again. he thanked me for coming forward and apologized for what jeramy said... i told him it doesn't matter, i don't care. but it did matter. i did what was right. and yet i got shit for it. like if it had been a few answers on the test, whatever, that's their business. but when you cheat on the whole test with the guaranteed answers, then it involves me and screws me over. it's not right. and smith told me that JE did admit to cheating on the test. but still said i deserved to be flipped off. so now i know he'll resent me for quite some time, possibly the rest of my life. but i had to say something. last time something like this happened, the other kids in the class tried to turn around the situation by saying what if your best friend did this? would you still rat them out? i told them i absolutely would, but, i don't make it my business to be friends with terrible cheaters like that. so in this situation, JE was a friend. not a best friend or anything but i liked him. he was funny. but i couldn't let him screw the rest of us over. it sucked and then the rest of the class still believed he hadn't cheated......it annoyed me cuz i know they were talking about me behind my back. and i hate that. i will go to someone's face and tell them if i have a real problem with them. anyhoo.... that's my ranting

so now with this mood, my song right now is "heavily broken" by the veronicas.... some of the lyrics are:
"everyday i sit here waiting/ everyday just seems so long/ now i've had enough of all the hating/ to even care it's so unfair......it never ends/ im heavily broken/ and i dont' know what to do/can't you see that i'm chokin, and i can't even move/ when there's nothing left to say, what can you do/ i'm heavily broken and there's nothing i can do/ almost giving on trying..... feels like i'm drowning/i'm screaming for air.../ and you don't even care.."

cuz i'm just sick and tired of the drama of high school. i don't want to be here and dealing with it. graduation almost can't come fast enough. it is kind of a comfort to know that after it, i won't have to see some ppl anymore. i can't stand it. i hate school. i have almost no motivation to finish, except the fact that it's only a month left. and i was trying to get my grades up to stay in national honor society and graduate with the cords, but it's just too much and i dont think i can pull back up this late in the game. i'll try to bring things up, but i don't know if i can....it's just too much right now. too much stress.

but there was one bright spot in my day. i got an email from a really good friend, and it really made my day. to just hear from him and get an email was awsome. it may not have been an entirely happy email, but just to be talking to him sometimes makes my day. he has a way of making me laugh. i know that my day is just better to say hi to him in the hallway at school. been my best friend for a while. thank god for friends. but anyhoo.... so my day has kind of just leveled out into a blah now.....and it's probably just gonna stay at that. but it's better than a day from hell. i was even in a good mood this morning cuz i meditated for a bit and it really centered me. and i had an oober cute hairdo. i had pigtail braids! i was in a funsy mood this morning. so that kind of shows how much the run ins with tiff and JE really hurt me and threw me off. but i'm okay for now...

average jane signing off. (friends are quiet angels who pick you up when your wings have trouble remembering how to fly....)

update previously untitled

well, here's my update for the week. so i have the habit of freaking out about things when i really have no cause to. like if i start a new relationship with someone, i think too much about it and then really flip. that's basically what destroyed my last relationship. and it's hitting me again. and it kind of sucks. cuz i want to find a serious relationship, but at the same time, i have to take it slow and get to know a person before i can even begin to conquer this odd habit. but yeah so there are two guys in my life that i don't know what i want with, as in friendship/relationship. a friend advised strongly against one. because lets just say that this one is into not so great of stuff, yet he makes me feel great. like i have a friend when sometimes i feel like i've lost other friends. especially my close ones. and that's why i stay in touch with him. but then the other guy, well, i'm still not sure about him. like we only met a few weeks ago, and i still need to figure out what i want out of this. like maybe just a friendship, or maybe more. all i know is that for now i'm sticking with just friends until i get to know them both better. and damn i'm still in high school, so i have a few years to worry about getting really serious with anyone. even though a part of me really wants it. i cant let myself because i know that i dont need it and that i need to really get to know a person and be sure that such a relationship is what i want. of course there are also other things that need to be considered. like sometimes these guys i speak of don't seem to be on the same mind track as me. like they might possibly do things or be into things i'm not so sure about. i may not have real set standards, and really dont believe a lot of the things of the mormon church, as is my family's religion, but there are some things i won't be pressured into. like in boy# 1's case, we'll call him j. well, j. is kind of into drugs and such, sort of, and i don't think i'd want to get into that, but i know that j would never pressure me into anything i dont want. and he genuinely cares.... boy#2. well, i don't know him all that well yet so i don't know. i think he wouldn't pressure me into anything. but i guess i trust him. well, as much as i can barely knowing him. and also i guess i question how someone can really really like anyone they just only met. i dunno. it's just kind of my nature to think too much about things. but yeah.

so i guess the only way i can really see how things will be is to just kind of go with the flow. and i guess what complicates things is that there are other guys i like besides these main two. and one of the other guys i like are changing. and it's weird to see it. cuz it's kind of hard to see someone you care about changing before your eyes and theres nothing you can do. like another person i care about. they are chagning and it makes me wonder what's goin on in their life to have such an effect on their life to change them almost so completely that i barely know them anymore. and it really sucks. also another friend is kind of growing more distant.

but yeah that's life. but i'm reminding myself constantly that i need to just take risks, not worry so much and just have fun@! :D

oh totally funny story. so i called up my friend nathan to see if he wanted to come to this high school music festival thing. and my mom thinks i'm talking to eric, my new friend. and so when i ask nathan if he needs a ride, i ask my mom if i can have the care to go pick him up. but i don't say names and she thinks i'm talking to eric. and she kind of flips and says you can't be alone in a car with him. it's like a date!!! :D lol yeh my mom's strict. but then i explain after i hang up that i was talking to nathan and asked again if i could have the car to pick him up. and she immediately says oh! yeah tha's okay. it's just nathan. and then talkin to my dad, "it's not like he's gonna kiss her or makeout with her. " LOL yeh i busted up laughing. so then i pick up nathan and i tell him all this. and he says how does she know we wouldn't make out. Lol so i bust up laughing again. and he says it'd be funny if we did make out. it'd make a statement to my parents. but then he's like can you see us kissing? and i'm like sorry, no. he's like yeah. we're like brother and sister. lol but yeah now we have the funniest inside jokes. and today he joked with me and steph about me and him not going any farther than first base. lol good times!!! nathan made my day in saying that. lol

anyhoo, so that's my update! :D should last me for a while.

average jane signing off! ( time to take risks and just go with the flow.)

oh and one more thing. i guess focusing on these guys kind of distract me from the fact that it feels like i'm losing a really close friend. i know talking to j. does that. he understands and cares. i like that feeling a whole lot. ne who. average jane off! :D